5 Premature Ejaculation Causes And How To Prevent Them
When I’m coaching guys on how to last longer in bed there’s always question they ask during the first session. What’s wrong with me. And more specifically – What causes premature ejaculation?
Before I answer this problem I always get one thing straight first. And that’s the nature of premature ejaculation. Almost all the men I have treated come to see me with the idea that premature ejaculation is a condition or disease that needs to be treated. They think that there is something very wrong with them and that they are different to “normal guys”.
This is when I sit them down and show them why they are completely wrong.
You see being able to control your ejaculatory system is a skill that can be learned by all men. In fact guys who can’t last in bed, 99 percent of the time will see significant improvements when they work on the key skills required for ejaculatory control.
So by far the biggest cause of premature ejaculation is simply not having yet acquired to skills of ejaculation control. I train men how to develop these skills which you can learn about here.
Now lets take a look at a few other causes of premature ejaculation. It is likely that a number of (or perhaps even all) these causes will apply to you.
You genes aren’t on your side
This first cause is something that none of us can help and that’s our genes. While there can be no doubting that these days, being able to put in a good performance in bed will make you more popular with the ladies this hasn’t always been the way. We now copulate in the safety of our bedrooms with little to fear, yet this hasn’t always been the case.
Picture yourself 10,000 years ago and it would have been a very different story. Let’s face it, when it comes to being exposed, during intercourse ranks right there up the top. There’s wild animals to worry about, not to mention your fellow tribes people. Those who could “do the deed” more quickly stood a distinct advantage on sending there seeds down onto the next generation. And that often meant being able to ejaculate as quickly as possible. This is why most men even to this day ejaculate much more quickly than they would like.
But this isn’t all bad news because nature and evolution has also equipped us with the ability to reason, communicate and learn ways around our natural limitations.
In the sixties and seventies if you suffered from premature ejaculation you were out of luck. Back then the popular consensus among experts was that it was 100% a physiological disorder. Treatment would have involved seeing a psychologists and delving deep into your inner most thoughts and fears. As you might guess the results of this treatment were not great, though it did help line the pockets of psychiatrists.
Still you’d be wrong to disregard psychological factors completely as a cause of premature ejaculation, and from my experience they generally revolve around anxiety issues.
When I treat men with premature ejaculation as part of my ejaculation freedom course I do commit one lesson to these factors yet I have found that they are also effectively mulled be developing the correct breathing and relaxation techniques plus learning some cool down tricks to take the pressure off.
Excessive Masturbatory Stimulation
There is no doubt that this is a contributory factor to many men’s inability to last in bed, though the reason might not be what you expect.
Firstly I should point out that masturbation is not bad on it’s own. In fact, when it’s done right it can actually help you reduce premature ejaculation. When done incorrectly, which is what just about all guys do it can reduce your ability to last in bed due to two main factors:
- It teaches you to focus on the outcome rather than process
- You are unconsciously training yourself to ejaculate quickly
When most guys masturbate they will almost always be focused of the end goal on reaching climax. And as you will learn if you decide to complete my training course, this habit automatically reproduces it’s self during intercourse and it will sabotage your efforts to stay in control.
When it comes to intercourse, as soon as you start to focus on your ejaculation it’s a sure fire way to a premature ejaculation.
but here’s the main cause of premature ejaculation
Because you have never been taught how
Sure. Some of the factor above have no doubt contributed to your premature ejaculation. Yet the real reason you are unable to last in bed is really simple. It’s because no one has ever showed you how.
Just as most of us would be terrible swimmers without the proper instruction is it any surprise that most guys are, lets face it, lousy in bed.
In it’s essence, ejaculatory control is just a skill that can be practiced and improved quite rapidly once you know the specific areas to focus on.
When I explain this to guys who I treat personally you can just see that “light bulb” moment when it all makes sense. Most of these guys have spent years living with the shame and embarrassment of there premature ejaculation. And perhaps like you, had always thought that there was something wrong with them.
How to improve your ejaculatory control
I’ve spent year coaching guys on improving their ejaculatory control and have developed a very successful course for guys looking to take action. Here’s some of the things I teach that will help you last longer in bed.
- Breathing correctly both before and during intercourse.
- Learn how to read the signals your body is sending you
- Learning instant cool down tricks and techniques
- Learn the correct areas to mentally focus on
- Learning sexual techniques that help you stay in control
- How to put yourself in the zone during intercourse (advanced)
- Meditative and visualization methods to relax your muscles
- Mental tricks to get in the right frame of mind
- Training methods to progressively boost your control
There’s also a lot more which I cover in my course but this will give you an understanding of the real nature of premature ejaculation and hopefully start approaching this problem the right way.
If you are interested in putting these into action and start improving your control right now you can see if you qualify for my course right here.