How To Last Longer In Bed

Hi. I’m Dan. As a sexual health coach, I specialize in teaching guys how to develop ejaculatory control and here I’ll show you the exact steps you can take to last longer in bed.

7 Easy Ways To Last Loger In Bed

What you’ll learn here is different to other “how to last longer in bed” advice you will see online. This is not a fluffy article written for a mens mag. This is the stuff that is working for men right now, and I’ll show you how to get it working for you as well.

There’s a lot here, so I’ve broken everything I’ll show you into 7 parts.

The 7 Steps To Lasting Longer In Bed

  1. Instant cool down tricks and techniques
  2. How to develop the right sexual mindset
  3. Breathing the right way before and during intercourse
  4. How to read you sexual response system and take action
  5. The nuts and bolts of ejaculatory training
  6. How to read the signals and use the right sexual technique
  7. How to get in the zone every time (Advanced)

These are the raw methods taken straight from my Ejaculation Freedom Program. Though all the information here is totally free.

Here’s How You Can Last Longer In Bed

I’ll be showing you 2 instant cool down techniques that you can put into action tonight. I’ll also show you how to breath the right way in bed, and explain the best positions and sexual techniques to use to last longer tonight.

Then I’ll run you through 3 training techniques for your ejaculatory muscles and show you an easy way to stop those negative thoughts sabotaging your efforts to last longer.

I’ll wrap it up by showing you a more advanced method of getting in the zone during sex. Hint: this is the key to lasting in bed during those hard pounding sessions you’ve probably been missing out on.

There’s a lot here, so let’s get into it…

Note: For the next section I will speak to you as if you are one of my clients. For no other reason that that’s what I’m used to and therefore the best way to explain the following methods to you.

1. Instant Cool Down Tricks and Techniques

Cool down your ejaculation system with specific techniques

A great place to start is to learn some instant cool down methods. These are specific actions you can perform that will cool your system and bring you back from the dreaded point of no return.

We’ll learn these methods first because they are great at giving you an extra bit of confidence.

Most guys who cant last begin to panic during sex as they feel themselves losing control and I’m betting you do this too. But once you have a few instant cool down techniques up your sleeve, you’ll do this a lot less.

Note: These are a temporary “insurance policy” to cover you as you start out. Once you start working on the more powerful skills and methods I’ll show you and get more ejaculatory control you wont need to use any of these methods at all.

I teach 10 separate instant cool down techniques in the full program but here I’ll explain two of them. They are both easy to learn and you can start using them effectively straight away.

1. The TBP Method

The TBP has been used by all my private clients and it’s super easy to learn so you can put it into action tonight.

TBP stands for Tongue – Back – Push. Use it when you start to feel your arousal level rising but before you reach the point of no return (PONR).

There’s 3 parts to it. Here’s what to do:

Part 1 – Run the tip of your tongue in a circular motion around the roof of your mouth. You can keep your mouth closed, so your partner wont even notice you doing it. It may tickle slightly. This may seem a bit weird but stick with me. I’ll explain why it works in a tick.

Part 2 – At the same time run your hands up and down your partner’s back in long even strokes. Go all the way up to her shoulders and down to her lower back (but avoid her butt).

If you are in a position where you cannot reach her back (such as missionary) rub your hands up and down her lower legs (think knees down) and her side. Really tune in to how her skin feels. This should be your prime focus.

Part 3 – The final part is to push your PC Muscle out (I explain more about this muscle down the page). Push out as though you’re starting the flow of urine (don’t worry, nothing will come out – I promise). Visualize yourself pushing out and releasing all the tension within. Hold for about 5 seconds and then release. Relax for 5 seconds and repeat.

Why it works:

  • Stops you narrowly focusing
  • Removes tension from your pelvic area (push)
  • Prevents you from focusing only on genital stimulation
  • Returns your focus to your partner

The PBT method is great because your partner wont notice you doing anything, apart from the extra attention paid to her back, which she will enjoy.

2 : The Snooze Button

The second technique I’ll show you is one to be saved for the very last line of defense. And it involves manually stopping you body’s ejaculation.

Before we start You’ll need to recognize the difference between orgasm and ejaculation.

Despite what most guys assume, these are two separate physical actions, and while they often occur together, they don’t have to.

The next instant cool down trick will stop your ejaculation. But you will still orgasm.

There is a point midway between your balls and your anus. As you start to climax press this point firmly and continue holding it all the way through your orgasm. You will fell some very strong contractions. Keep holding this point until they have finished.

If you get the right point will not physically ejaculate. It’s best to practice this on your own once or twice first, but DO NOT overuse it.

Important: This method should be saved for emergencies only as a last line of defense.

I teach 10 full instant cool down methods in my Ejaculation Freedom training program. The others are a lot more powerful but they have to be done the right way, and need to be combined with some of the other training methods.

If you are one of the guys who decide to download my full training program you won’t need to use these hacks after the first week because you will develop more powerful methods of control.

2. How To Develop The Right Sexual Mindset



To stop anxiety, negative thoughts or panic sabotaging your efforts to last in bed you need to do two things.

Step one is the most important and it it to Learn all the physical skills of ejaculation control.

If you haven’t made the effort to learn these skills and to understand your sexual response system (I’ll be honest), you have good reason to be anxious before sex, because you almost certainly wont last.

That ‘mental switch’ that you can just flick and everything will be OK is never going to be found because it does not exist.

There’s no ‘fake it till you make it’ here. Once you have acquired and practiced these skills a natural aura of confidence will soon follow.

Learn the skills > Confidence follows > Simple as that.

Step 2 is to shift the way you approach and think about sex by doing the following things…

Ways To Improve Your Sexual Mindset:

  • Women are not from Venus – And you are not from Mars. They share 99.9 percent of your DNA. Don’t view the opposite sex as different species, or put them on a pedestal. Get comfortable with them.
  • View sex as an activity (that also happens to be very enjoyable) and not something that is mystical or magical.
  • Talk to her. Tell a Joke. Lighten up and laugh at your mistakes.
  • Learn my instant cool down techniques – knowing you have all 10 of these up your sleeve “just in case”, is often enough to eliminate doubt and panic completely
  • Focus on her – mentally and physically. Try gently caressing your partner with your hands all over and really focus in on how she feels. Her back, her legs, her hair. Not just the sexual areas. Everywhere.
  • Stop thinking about those what ifs – As soon as your mind starts to wonder, bring it straight back to your partner. Be present.
  • Stop thinking it’s all in your head. It’s not.
  • Stop thinking this is just the way you are. IT’S NOT.

And that’s it. Do all this and you will be well on the way to lasting longer in bed every time.

3. Anchor Your Breathing

Start lasting longer with the correct breathing techniques

If you’re not breathing the right way during sex you will struggle to last in bed. It’s as simple as that.

Now most guys who cant last in bed get this wrong. But it’s easy to learn how to breath correctly. And it can make a difference straight away.

Breathing the right way relaxes your muscles. Removing the tension that would otherwise start working its way down to your pelvic area.

The trick is to develop the habit of deep breathing before sex has even begun. Picture this as you laying down a solid foundation to the performance in bed you will soon be giving.

How To Breath During Sex

Diaphragmatic breathing will help you last longer in bed naturally

  1. Breath in through your nose steadily and deeply for 8 seconds. Visualize the air being pulled deep within, and not just your lungs. Don’t tense your muscles.
  2. Hold for 1 seconds.
  3. Breath out evenly and steadily through your mouth for 10 seconds. Don’t rush it. Try to visualize yourself breathing out tension, from deep within your core.

Your ejaculations are always caused by involuntary muscular tension and our goal with everything we will do will be to reduce and control that tension during each stage of sexual arousal. Using the correct breathing methods starts us out on the right foot.

For the guys doing the full program, you’ll get 3 separate breathing techniques to use before and during sex plus a more powerful one that will cool your system fast. We’ll also be learning more advanced methods using meditative and visualization techniques.

4. How To Read Your Sexual Responses And Take Action


I know it doesn’t seem like it right now, but your body is on your side. It wants you to succeed. To take control and last longer in bed. It really does, which is why it sends you a range of direct signals every time you have sex. The problem is most guys (and I’m betting you’re one of them) totally misinterpret them.

It’s not rocket science to listen to these signals. In fact it’s flat out simple. And in this part of the training program I’ll show you exactly what to look for.

5. Ejaculatory Training and Conditioning.


The methods I’ve covered so far will no doubt help you, but to really develop your staying power you are going to have to do some physical training.

Do you know what the physical mechanism of ejaculation is? If you are like most of the guys I coach you probably have no idea.

It’s pretty simple actually. In fact it’s just the one muscle group that is responsible for triggering and propelling ejaculation. They are your PC muscles and next we’ll learn how to control them.

This is important stuff, because when these muscles are in a relaxed state it is literally impossible to ejaculate.

It sounds simple. Just make sure not to tense theses muscles.  But unfortunately this is one of the hardest muscles to in your body to control, but it CAN be done.


The stop and start technique, the squeeze method and traditional “edging” have been around for a while now and they are what most sex counselors and books will teach you. While they are better than nothing, for my clients this just wasn’t good enough.

That’s why after a lot of research and trial and error I have developed a range of much more powerful methods. These advanced edging techniques allow you to build up more and more resistance to intense stimulation without any stopping and starting.

I go through 8 separate advanced edging techniques in the full Ejaculation Freedom program  and you will work your way through them as your control gets better and better.  If you can’t afford to purchase my complete training program (it’s very cheap by the way) contact me here with a short note and I’ll make sure you get a copy of these techniques.


A lot of less informed people and information you find online tell men to do Kegels training to last longer in bed. But the standard Kegels they recommend generally won’t help you last longer and can even make your problem worse.

Kegels are great at strengthening your PC muscles. They are not so good at improving the control you have over these muscles. And there is a BIG difference.

That’s because lasting longer in bed is all about control, not strength. And it’s the tensing and flexing of these muscles that is the physical trigger of ejaculation. So the last thing you want to be doing is strengthening it without boosting your control.

That’s what standard Kegels do, and it’s why I advise against training using the traditional version. It’s also why I’ve developed a safe and much more effective type of Kegel exercise. Stamina Kegels.

What Are Stamina Kegels?

Rather than focusing on force, Stamina Kegels train your ability to release tension from your PC muscles.

The trick is to really focus on isolating that muscle and controlling it without flexing any of the surrounding areas. You’ll find that it’s more mentally tiring than it is physically.

The good news is that it doesn’t take long to build the muscle memory, so after just a week of daily 5 minute training sessions you should be able to relax your PC Muscle on call.

Note: Be very careful following random advice on how to last longer in bed from places like Reddit, Yahoo Answers and online sources about these training methods. From what I’ve seen I can tell you that 95% of it is incorrect. Some of it, especially regarding Kegels and Edging can actually make your problem worse.

6. Last longer in bed with the right sexual techniques and tactics


Next up, it’s time to make sure you have some positions to use that will help you last longer.

Note: Once you have mastered all the other skills, you’ll be able to last using any position you choose. Until you get to that level however, you’ll need to understand and sometimes use the positions and techniques covered in this section.

This will vary from man to man, but here’s the main factors to consider when choosing a position.

  • Muscular tension required (important – see below)
  • Amount of stimulation to the head of the penis
  • Depth of penetration
  • Amount of thrusting
  • Visuals

Reducing Involuntary Muscular Tension

Most guys assume that it’s all about the direct stimulation to their penis. That’s a factor but only a small part of it. What’s more important is the way some positions cause you to flex your core muscles involuntarily.

This excess tensions will travel through your body, straight to your pelvic area and ejaculatory muscles. Most guys don’t even notice it happening until it’s too late.

The good thing is though, that it’s easy to make some small adjustments to prevent this from happening.

Sexual Techniques To Help You Last Longer

Along with your position, there’s also some specific sexual techniques you can learn and put into action when needed. These are great to use when you need to cool down but need to be explained in detail for you to do them right, so you’ll need to do the full training program to learn these fully.

Until then, here’s some quick tips:

  • Focus on grinding not thrusting.
  • Learn to rotate your pelvic section without tensing core muscles.
  • Know where your girls hot spots are and learn how to “hit them” without overheating yourself.
  • Distribute your weight to the right areas.
  • Move your entire body fluidly – Don’t just poke away with your groin.

No More Stopping And Starting During Sex

I never encourage men to stop and start during sex. Women hate it and it leads to the wrong type of mindset. Use these instead.

You can get the full details and instructions for these positions and techniques in my Ejaculation Freedom training program and the great thing about them is that they allow you to continue sex while cooling your system.

7. Achieving Flow And Start Lasting As Long As You Choose


Now when I first explain this section of the training to my clients most of them just don’t get to start with.

It can even seem counter-intuitive.

But as the thousands of guys who have completed the ejaculation freedom program soon realize… this is the most powerful skill to have.

This is all about getting yourself “in the zone”. It’s a state of mind where you stop worrying. Your muscles relax and you stop thinking about the clock. Your mind goes from thinking about all those “what ifs” to focus fully on the beautiful woman you are with. It’s how sex is supposed to be, and I’ll show you how to put yourself in this state every time.

This all may sound a bit spiritual at first, but this is based on real science and what’s more, there’s a step-by-step method which you can follow to reach it.

If you are working through the full training program, at this stage you will have already built up your lasting time significantly. And this is where you will go from lasting 15 minutes, to taking full control and lasting as long as you choose every single time. This is Ejaculation Freedom. It’s a great feeling and you’re going to love it.

Lets sum up what we have learned…

Ways To Last Longer In Bed:

Whether you experience sever premature ejaculation, or would just like to delay your climax and last longer during intercourse here’s what you should do:

  • Breath Correctly: Take deep natural breaths both before and during intercourse
  • Relax your muscles:  Avoid tensing your muscles as this tension will quickly travel to your ejaculatory region and cause premature ejaculation.
  • Learn Instant Cool-Down Techniques:  That help to force your arousal levels down and bring you back from the point of no return.
  • Avoid Stress: Talking to your partner can be a great way to take the pressure off and eliminate performance anxiety.
  • Sexual Techniques: Learn a range of sexual techniques that help you delay ejaculation without stopping so you can continue to stimulate your partner.
  • Premature Ejaculation Exercises: Train you ejaculatory system to withstand stimulating with a targeted training program.
  • Read your sexual response: Learn how to read the messages your body is sending you during intercourse so you can take quick action.
  • Get In The Zone: An advanced method and mental focus technique that takes your mind off the clock lets you stay in control during hard, pounding sexual sessions

Want To Start Learning These Advanced Techniques Right Now?

Most women need a solid 15 minutes of sex to reach orgasm. And you should be aiming for that as a minimum. It may seem like a lot now, but all guys can get there. And if you want to learn exactly how – keep reading…

Here’s just some of what you’ll get in the full Ejaculation Freedom advanced training program:

Learn How To Stop Premature Ejaculation With The Ejaculation Freedom course PDF

  • A Step-by-step ejaculatory muscle training system
  • Advanced Instant cool-down hacks that turn back the clock fast
  • A complete work out guide so you can track your improvements
  • Powerful visualization and meditative techniques to put you in complete control
  • The keys to reducing core muscular tension before it reaches your ejaculatory muscles
  • 3 key breathing techniques to use before and during sex, plus another to cool your system instantly
  • How to reprogram your thoughts and perceptions to stop them sabotaging your efforts and get them working for you
  • My specially devised set of “stamina kegels” exercises which allow you to relax your ejaculatory muscles on call
  • A checklist of common things most guys do that sabotage their chances of lasting – you’re probably doing most of these now
  • Learn superior sexual positions that keep you in control and send her wild – no more of that stopping and starting business which women hate
  • An extremely powerful way to put your self “in the zone” every time – This is the key to those hard pounding sessions that women crave and that you have probably been missing out on.
  • learn why every guy (no matter how bad it is now) can develop full ejaculation control which means you can last as long as you choose – every time.
  • and much, much more…

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Thanks for joining me and I hope that after reading this you will have a much better understanding of how your ejaculatory system works and the many ways that you can train yourself to last longer in bed.

It’s not easy being a guy who can’t last in bed. Many guys are so ashamed that they just give up. But the fact that you’re here and have read this far shows that you’re not that kind of man.

It also tells me that you are exactly the type of guy that these techniques and methods  are going to work for.

Now let me hold up my end of the deal. I have total faith in my Ejaculation Freedom program. I’ve seen it work for thousands of men already and know that if you are able to follow the straightforward, step by step methods I lay out, that it will be just as effective for you.

Yours Sincerely,

Dan Becket



If you have any comments or questions about what we have covered you can leave a comment bellow (you can comment anonymously). Alternatively you can contact me via email here. You can also check out more details on the full program here. Good luck with it! – Dan

Dan Becket
Dan Becket

Dan Becket is an award winning researcher, coach and author on premature ejaculation and it’s prevention. Along with assisting his private clients improve their sexual performance he is the creator of Ejaculation Freedom – The worlds number 1 premature ejaculation training program

15 Responses to “How To Last Longer In Bed

  • Hi Dan, I’m 21 years old. I know I’m young but, I want to start learning early. My girlfriend have been dating for 3 years now and every time we have sex it feels like the first time. I last about 1 minute and I’m not satisfied with it. She doesn’t orgasm and makes me feel bad. Can you give me some advice please?

    • Dan Becket
      10 months ago

      Hi Ben. First up. Do not worry. What you are experiencing is not unusual. Most guys are too embarrassed to discuss their premature ejaculation but there are many other guys experiencing this. That said, It’s a tough situation to be in, especially when you realize that you are not satisfying your girlfriend.

      The good news is that there is no reason why you can’t improve your performance. I’ve seen guys who started off much worse than you achieve total ejaculatory control and you will be able to as well.

      There’s some quick things you can start with right now, such as the breathing techniques, the instant cool-down methods and position selection but in your case you are going to have to complete some training exercises which will take a few weeks to get right.

      The training is important because it will reprogram your ejaculatory response to cool it’s self down automatically (I call this a turn back). Once you have learned the correct technique in training you can start putting into action during sex. It may take a couple of tries to get it right, but once you do you will realize that you are able to cool your system down on call and continue saving sex.

      You can then move onto the more advanced stuff which will push you towards having total control. It will take some work and commitment on your behalf but it will be well and truly worth it.

      I have emailed you the first 2 chapters of the Ejaculation Freedom course to get you started. Good Luck.

  • Hi Dan and thanks for showing so many of your Techniques. I read a lot of stuff about PE but this is the only one that looks like it can help me. I plan to buy your program but would like to know how long it will take to work. I will see my GF in 2 weeks and want to be able to last before then. Last time we had sex was just 1 or 2 minutes.

    • Dan Becket
      9 months ago

      Hi Raph. If you start the program today, you will definitely see improvement when you meet your girlfriend in 2 weeks time. However, to get the full benefits of the program it generally takes about a month. Good luck, and enjoy your time with your girl. – Dan

  • Hello Dan. I tried your instant cool down methods and they worked really well. Thanks for all the info.

  • I bought your program Dan and it was very good but then I got to the part where I have to Masturbate and touch my self. I cannot do this! it is against my religion and its bad. I didn’t know I had to do things like this. I cannot follow your instruction any more!!!

    • Dan Becket
      9 months ago

      Hi Abdul and thanks for giving the program a try.

      Yes. Some of the training modules do involve a degree of self stimulation. Although they only make up one part of the course, they really are necessary to build up ejaculatory control and to learn the correct techniques.

      I understand that this may be incompatible with your religious views, and I respect your right to adhere to them.

      I have given you a full refund on your purchase, though feel free to keep the program, and work through the other non-ejaculatory training modules. While you may not see the results other guys have been getting, they will still help you somewhat. Best of luck – Dan

  • Do I need a partner for the training part of the program or can i just do it all on my own?

    • Hey Blake. No need for a partner. I did all the training on my own. It’ll get you lasting long enough, then when you start having sex you can kinda train yourself more but you don’t even need to tell your girl. That’s what I did anyway.

    • Dan Becket
      7 months ago

      Hi Blake. You can complete the entire course 100% solo. That’s how it’s designed. There’s a couple of the more advanced training techniques which can be done with a partner, but they will work just as well on there own. – Dan

  • Geophrey Barasa
    4 months ago

    thanks Dan Becket ,I see your course helpful, I work to get a copy

  • Hi Dan. How can I get your program?

    • Dan Becket
      6 days ago

      Hi Samuel. Check out the Download Page where you can get your copy of the program. Best of luck with it. – Dan

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