How To Last Longer In Bed

Hi. I’m Dan. I coach men on how to last longer in bed and here I’ll show you the exact steps to last over 20 minutes every time.

How To Last Longer In Bed Training Guide

This is different to other “how to last longer in bed” advice. Because everything you’ll learn today are tried and tested methods that are working for men right now. Now it’s time to get them them working for you.

If you’re a woman, read this first.

For the guys, there’s a lot here, so I’ve broken everything I’ll show you into 7 parts.

The 7 Steps To Last Longer In Bed

  1. Instant cool down techniques that stop you ejaculating too soon (Use these tonight)
  2. Develop a sexual mindset for longer lasting sex
  3. Last longer by breathing the right way during intercourse (Learn in 5 minutes)
  4. How to read you sexual response system and take action
  5. Advance Exercises to last longer in bed without pills (Important)
  6. Last longer during sex with the best positions and techniques
  7. How to get in the zone every time (Advanced)

These are the raw methods taken straight from my Ejaculation Freedom Program. Though all the information here is totally free.

7 Easy Ways To Last Loger In Bed

After you’ve learned everything here, we’ll wrap it up by teaching you a method of getting in the zone during sex. Hint: This is the key to lasting in bed during those hard pounding sessions you’ve been missing out on.

Note: For the next section I will speak to you as one of my clients. It’s what I’m used to and the best way to explain all the methods to you.

We have a lot to cover, so let’s get into it…

1. Stop Ejaculating Too Soon With These Instant Cool Down Tricks

Cool down your ejaculation system with these techniques

We’ll start with some instant cool down methods. These are specific actions you will take to cool your system fast and bring you back from the dreaded point of no return.

We’ll learn these emergency methods first.

Most guys who cant last in bed begin to panic during sex when they start losing control. This only makes things worse. But once you have a few cool down techniques up your sleeve you’ll be confident knowing you always have a fallback.

I teach 10 full instant cool down techniques in my training program. And the two I’ll show you next are easy to learn and you can use them straight away.

1. The TBP Method

The TBP Method has been used by all my private clients and It’s super easy to learn.

TBP stands for TongueBackPush. Use this techniques when you feel your arousal level rising but before you reach the point of no return.

There’s 3 parts to it. Here’s what to do:

Part 1 – Run the tip of your tongue in a circular motion around the roof of your mouth. You can keep your mouth closed, so your partner wont even notice. It will tickle slightly. It’s a bit weird but stick with me. I’ll explain why it works in a tick.

Part 2 – At the same time run your hands up and down your partner’s back in long even strokes. Go all the way up to her shoulders and down to her lower back (but avoid her butt).

If you are in a position where you cannot reach her back (such as missionary) rub your hands up and down her legs and side. Really tune in to how her skin feels. This is your prime focus.

Part 3 – The final part is to push your PC Muscle out (learn how to find your PC muscles here). Push out as though you’re starting the flow of urine (don’t worry, nothing will come out – I promise). Visualize yourself pushing out and releasing tension within. Hold for about 5 seconds and then release. Relax for 5 seconds and repeat.

Why it works:

  • Stops you narrowly focusing
  • Removes tension from your pelvic area (push)
  • Prevents you from focusing only on genital stimulation
  • Returns your focus to your partner

The PBT method is great because your partner wont notice you doing anything, apart from the extra attention paid to her back, which she will enjoy.

2 : The Snooze Button

Stop Coming To Soon With The Snooze Technique
The second technique should be saved for the very last line of defense. And it involves manually stopping your ejaculation.

Despite what most guys assume, your ejaculation and orgasm are two separate physical actions. They often occur together, but they don’t have to.

This technique involves pressing your perineum to stop your ejaculation, but not your orgasm.

Finding Your Perineum

The perineum is located midway between your anus and your scrotum. You’ll know you have the right point when you feel it pulsate during orgasm.

Sorry guys. Hope you’re not half way through lunch, but we need a diagram here:

Holding your perenium is an emergency method to last longer during intercourse

Here’s what to do:

  1. Press your perineum firmly as you are about to ejaculate
  2. Continue holding for the duration of your orgasm
  3. Release when you feel you contractions subsiding

If you get the right point, you will not physically ejaculate. Practice this on your own once or twice first.

Important: This method should be saved for emergencies only as a last line of defense. Don’t overuse it.

Further Methods

I teach 10 full instant cool down methods in my Ejaculation Freedom training program. Though once you learn the more powerful stuff to follow you won’t need these emergency methods at all.

2. How To Develop The Right Mindset For Longer Lasting Sex

To stop anxiety, negative thoughts or panic sabotaging your efforts to last in bed you need to do two things.

Step 1 is the most important and it is to Learn the physical skills of ejaculation control.

If you haven’t made the effort to learn these skills and to understand your sexual response system, you have good reason to be anxious before sex, because you almost certainly wont last.

That ‘mental switch’ that you can just flick and everything will be OK is never going to be found because it does not exist.

The reason so many men struggle to last is because they lack the physical skills, not because they have some psychological problem.

Once you have acquired and practiced the skills on this page a natural aura of confidence will follow.

Learn the skills > Confidence follows > Simple as that.

Step 2 is to change your mental approach to sex by doing the following things…

Ways To Improve Your Sexual Mindset:

  • Women are not from Venus – And you are not from Mars. They share 99.9 percent of your DNA. Don’t view the opposite sex as a different species, or put them on a pedestal. Get comfortable with them.
  • View sex as an activity (that happens to be very enjoyable) and not something mystical or magical.
  • Talk to her. Tell a Joke. Lighten up. Laugh at your mistakes.
  • Learn my instant cool down techniques – knowing you have all 10 of these up your sleeve “just in case”, is often enough to eliminate doubt and panic completely
  • Focus on her – mentally and physically. Try gently caressing your partner all over and focus in on how it feels. Her back, her legs, her hair. Not just the sexual areas. Everywhere.
  • Stop thinking about those what ifs – As soon as your mind starts to wonder, bring it back to your partner. Be present.
  • Stop thinking it’s all in your head. It’s not.
  • Stop thinking this is just the way you are. IT’S NOT.

And that’s it. Do this and you will be well on the way to lasting longer in bed every time.

3. Last Longer By Breathing The Right Way During Intercourse

Start Lasting Longer With The These Breathing Techniques

If you’re not breathing the right way during sex you will struggle to last in bed. And most guys who cant last get this wrong.

But it’s easy to learn and it will make a difference straight away.

Breathing the right way relaxes your muscles, and removes the tension that would otherwise work its way down to your pelvic area.

The trick is to develop the habit of deep breathing before sex has even begun. Picture this as you laying down a solid foundation for the performance in bed you will soon be giving.

How To Breath During Sex

Diaphragmatic breathing will help you last longer in bed naturally

  1. Breath in through your nose steadily and deeply for 8 seconds. Visualize the air being pulled deep within. Don’t tense your muscles.
  2. Hold for 1 seconds.
  3. Breath out evenly and steadily through your mouth for 10 seconds. Don’t rush it. Visualize yourself breathing out tension, from deep within your core.

Your ejaculations are always caused by involuntary muscular tension and our goal with everything we will do will be to reduce and control that tension. A correct breathing method starts us out on the right foot.

For the guys doing the full program, you’ll get 3 separate breathing techniques to use before and during sex plus a more powerful one that will cool your system fast. We’ll also be learning more advanced methods using meditative and visualization techniques.

4. How To Read Your Sexual Responses And Take Action

I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but your body is on your side. It wants you to succeed. To take control and last longer in bed. It really does. Which is why it sends you direct signals every time you have sex. The problem is, most guys (and I’m betting you’re one of them) totally misinterpret them.

It’s not rocket science to listen to these signals. In fact it’s flat out simple. You’ll be learning a huge number of techniques and skills and here is where you’ll know exactly when to use each of them.

I explain how to read these signals during each stage of arousal here.

5. Advanced Exercises To Last Longer In Bed Without Pills

The methods we’ve covered so far will no doubt help you, but to really develop your staying power you will need some physical training.

Do you know what the physical mechanism of ejaculation is? If you’re like most of the guys I coach you probably have no idea.

It’s pretty simple. It’s just one muscle group that is responsible for triggering and propelling ejaculation. They are your PC muscles and next we’ll learn how to control them.

This is important stuff, because when these muscles are relaxed, it is literally impossible to ejaculate.

It sounds simple. Just don’t tense your PC muscle. But it’s one of the hardest muscles in your body to control. But it CAN be done with the right training.

Edging Exercises

The stop and start technique, the squeeze method and traditional “edging” have been around for a while now and they are what most sex counselors and books will teach you. While they are better than nothing, for you guys that’s just not good enough.

That’s why after working with my clients, I have developed much more powerful edging methods. These advanced edging techniques allow you to build up more and more resistance to intense stimulation without any stopping and starting.

Premature Ejaculation Edging Exercises
You’ll get 8 advanced edging techniques in the full Ejaculation Freedom program and as you work through them your control will get better and better.  If you can’t afford to purchase my complete training program (it’s very cheap by the way) contact me here with a short note and I’ll make sure you get a copy of these techniques.

Kegels Exercises

A lot of stuff you find online tell men to do Kegels training to last longer in bed. But these standard Kegels won’t help you last longer and can make your problem worse.

Kegels are great at strengthening your PC muscles. They are not good at improving control over these muscles. And there is a BIG difference.

That’s because lasting longer in bed is about control, not strength. And it’s the tensing and flexing in this area that is the physical trigger of your ejaculation. So the last thing you want to do is strengthen it without boosting control.

That’s what standard Kegels do, and it’s why I advise against training using the traditional version. It’s also why I’ve developed a safe and more effective type of Kegels exercise. Stamina Kegels.

What Are Stamina Kegels?

Rather than focus on force, Stamina Kegels train you to release tension from your PC muscles. The trick is to focus on isolating the PC muscle and control it without flexing surrounding areas.

It will feel different to start with, but it doesn’t take long to build muscle memory. And after a week of daily 5 minute training sessions you will be able to relax your PC Muscle on call.

6. Last Longer During Sex With The Best Positions And Techniques

Best Positions And Techniques To Last Longer

Next up, we’ll make sure you have some positions to use that will help you last longer during sex.

Note: Once you have mastered all the other skills, you’ll be able to last using any position you choose. But until you get to that level, you’ll need to understand and sometimes use the positions and techniques covered in this section.

Here’s what to consider when choosing a position.

  • Muscular tension required (important – see below)
  • Amount of stimulation to the head of the penis
  • Depth of penetration
  • Amount of thrusting
  • Visuals

Reducing Involuntary Muscular Tension

Most guys assume that it’s all about the direct stimulation to their penis. But that’s only a small part of it. What’s more important is the way some positions cause you to flex your core muscles involuntarily.

This excess tensions travels through your body, straight to your pelvic and ejaculatory muscles. Most guys don’t notice it happening until it’s too late.

The good thing is that it’s easy to make a few small adjustments to stop this at it’s source.

Sexual Techniques To Help You Last Longer

Along with your position, there’s also some specific sexual techniques you can put into action when needed. These are great to use to instantly cool down, but need to be explained in detail for you to do them right. So you’ll need to do the full training program to learn these fully.

Until then, here’s some quick tips:

  • Focus on grinding not thrusting.
  • Learn to rotate your pelvic section without tensing core muscles.
  • Know where your girls hot spots are and learn how to “hit them” without overheating yourself.
  • Distribute your weight to the right areas.
  • Move your entire body fluidly – Don’t just poke away with your groin.

Sexual technique to extend intercourse

No More Stopping And Starting During Sex

I never encourage men to stop and start during sex. Women hate it and it leads to the wrong type of mindset. Use these instead.

You can get the full details and instructions for these positions and techniques in my Ejaculation Freedom training program. The great thing about them is that they allow you to continue sex while cooling your system.

7. Achieving Flow And Start Lasting As Long As You Choose


When I explain this advanced training module to my clients most of them don’t fully get it to start with. But as the guys who complete the program soon realize… this is the most powerful skill to have.

This is all about getting yourself “in the zone”. It’s a state of mind where you stop worrying. Your muscles relax and you stop thinking about the clock. Your mind goes from stressing about all those “what ifs” to focus fully on the beautiful woman you are with. It’s how sex is supposed to be, and I’ll show you how to put yourself in this state every time.

This all may sound a bit spiritual at first, but it’s based on real science and there’s a step-by-step method that will put you into this state fast.

If you’re working through the full training program, at this stage you’ll have built your stamina up to 10-20 minutes. This is where you will take it up a notch again and achieve full control. Now you last as long as you choose – every time.

It’s a great feeling. And you’re going to love it.

Ejaculation Freedom By Dan Becket

Your Week By Week Training Schedule

Your 1 Month Training Scedule To Last Longer In Bed
There’s a lot here for you to take in. And in truth, to understand this stuff 100% you’ll need to try it and experience it for yourself.

So next I’m going to walk you through what a 4 week training schedule will cover should you decide to follow it. Again this is all taken from my Ejaculation Freedom program.

Training Week 1

Week 1 is all about showing you how your ejaculatory system works and how you will develop skills to control it at each stage of arousal. We’ll get you breathing correctly, and show you how to put your mind in an optimal state, plus you’ll be learning a stack of instant cool down methods for you to keep up your sleeve. You’ll get started on ejaculatory training.

  • All about Premature Ejaculation (What it is, what causes it, and how you will fix it)
  • Breathing
  • Instant cool down methods
  • Visualization and meditative techniques
  • Arousal Levels – understanding, reading and controlling them
  • Getting into a prime mental state before sex
  • Intro to Turn-backs and edging techniques
  • Getting started with ejaculatory training

Training Week 2

Now we switch it up a notch with more intense training. By the end of the week you’ll be able to isolate and control individual ejaculatory muscles and will be achieving turn-backs during sex.

  • Reading your body’s signals and taking the RIGHT action
  • The best sexual positions and techniques and when to use them
  • Advanced instant cool down methods
  • How to achieve multiple turn backs during sex (without stopping)
  • Control Kegels and how to relax your PC muscle
  • Ejaculatory training level 2

Training Week 3

Here’s where we double down on training. This is were my clients see all these new skills working together and it’s were you’ll reach a tipping point and truly know that premature ejaculation is not part of you or something you are stuck with. It’s a great feeling and will set you up for the final week of the program.

  • Advanced control Kegels
  • Advanced edging and turn-back techniques (to use during sex)
  • Advanced sexual techniques and when to use them
  • Stopping your ejaculatory reflex
  • Advanced ejaculatory training
  • Combo techniques – get everything working together

Training Week 4

It’s important for me to send you out the door at the end of the 4 weeks of training with the skills, techniques and mindset to last as long as you choose. Here’s where we’ll cover the skills that will get you there. This is what I call Ejaculation Freedom. It’s a great feeling, and you are going to love it.

  • Getting in the zone every time (a state of flow)
  • Going beyond 20 minutes
  • Lasting during hard, pounding sex sessions (you will love this)
  • Sexual mastery
  • Making the most of your new found stamina

And that’s it. Mark the date from today, and imagine how good you will be feeling in just 4 weeks if you start training right now.

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Thanks for joining me and I hope that you now have a much better understanding of how your ejaculatory system works and the many ways you can train yourself to last longer in bed.

It’s not easy being a guy who can’t last in bed. Many guys are so ashamed that they just give up. But the fact that you’re here and have read this far shows that you’re not that kind of man.

It also tells me that you are exactly the type of guy these techniques and methods will work for.

Now let me hold up my end of the deal. I have total faith in my Ejaculation Freedom program. I’ve seen it work for thousands of men and I know that if you follow the straightforward, step-by-step methods I lay out, it will work just as well for you.

Yours Sincerely,

Dan Becket


If you have any comments or questions about what we have covered you can leave a comment bellow (you can comment anonymously). Alternatively you can contact me via email here. You can also check out more details on the full program here. Good luck with it! – Dan

Dan Becket
Dan Becket

Dan Becket is an award winning researcher, coach and author on premature ejaculation and it’s prevention. Along with assisting his private clients improve their sexual performance he is the creator of Ejaculation Freedom – The worlds number 1 premature ejaculation training program

43 Responses to “How To Last Longer In Bed

  • Hi, I think I like your tutor and techniques you dish out to help people with pE …. I would love to key in the program .. But can I get a pre detail of the techniques or some chapter of the book.. To start work, thanks

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      6 months ago

      I get this request a lot. The information I have included on this page is designed to be sample of the full program. But I’ll put something together showing the chapter lists and more info on the actual content of the course and send you the link. Best of luck. – Dan

  • Hello Dann, i don’t last upto a minute with my girlfriend and i always feel horrible about it. I love her so much and don’t want to lose her. Can u help me out please?

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      3 months ago

      Hi Tom. Your situation is very normal. If you are willing to commit yourself my course will be perfect for you should get you up to 20 minutes. You can get it here. feel free to contact me should you need any additional help. – Dan

    8 months ago

    You have a good program b’coz due to loss of control ,I do finish within d’rent minutes like,10,15,30 etc but now i have learnt, #thank u

  • Hi Dan,

    how this program works??, is it pdf file or a type of software as i travel much and need to have the program on my laptop and phone

    When i should feel the results and do i need to stop the relationship for certain time when i start??

    I am optimistic to have this program hoping it will make a difference

    Thanks Dan

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      9 months ago

      Hi Wess. The program is in PDF format so you can save it to your phone, tablet or laptop and take it with you. You’ll see results immediately and will get the full results after 4 weeks. No, don’t stop your relationship. You can start using the techniques during sex as soon as you learn them. I’m confident you’ll notice an increase in your control very soon. Good luck with it. – Dan

  • Hi dan.
    I have the problem of comming in like 30 seconds. It used to be 3 minutes but then i did kegel and it got worse, can i still build up stamina even if i have done kegel to worsen my stamina?
    I would also really like to try out the course but as i dont have enough money is it possible to purchase a part of It?

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      8 months ago

      Hi Mortada. A lot of guys who follow Kegals instructions online end up making their premature ejaculation worse. But this is 100% reversible. The key is to train yourself to release tension in this area and the course has a specific module which covers this. I don’t give out free copies of the course anymore as I require a small commitment on your part. But I have sent you this specific module. Good luck with it. I’m sure it will help.

  • Hi Dan , i have been dating my girlfriend for More than 3 yrs and anytime we have sex, i dont last more dan a minute/ 30secs. its make me feel very bad. is there any way of solving this problem ??

  • Anonymous
    11 months ago

    Hi Dan im from India.. can I get it through visa card??

  • This program looks like it will be great for me Dan. I wanna read some reviews about it. Also If I buy it, what will show up on my credit card bill? I want to keep the purchase private. Thanx.

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      12 months ago

      Hi Gavin. I receive some great feedback from my one-on-one clients and guys who have completed the Ejaculation Freedom program which you can read here. If you use the program yourself I’d also love to get you’re own review on how the program worked for you.

      Due to the nature of my product I take your privacy very seriously which is why all billing is extremely desecrate and will be labeled simply as “Paypal”. There will be no indication as to the nature of the purchase. Hope this helps and best of luck with the program.

  • samuel
    1 year ago

    Hi Dan. How can I get your program?

  • Geophrey Barasa
    1 year ago

    thanks Dan Becket ,I see your course helpful, I work to get a copy

  • Do I need a partner for the training part of the program or can i just do it all on my own?

    • You don’t need a partner. I did all the training on my own. It’ll get you lasting long enough, then when you start having sex you can kinda train yourself more but you don’t even need to tell your girl. That’s what I did anyway.

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      2 years ago

      Hi Blake. You can complete the entire course 100% solo. That’s how it’s designed. There’s a couple of the more advanced training techniques which can be done with a partner, but they will work just as well on there own. – Dan

  • I bought your program Dan and it was very good but then I got to the part where I have to Masturbate and touch my self. I cannot do this! it is against my religion and its bad. I didn’t know I had to do things like this. I cannot follow your instruction any more!!!

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      2 years ago

      Hi Abdul and thanks for giving the program a try.

      Yes. Some of the training modules do involve a degree of self stimulation. Although they only make up one part of the course, they really are necessary to build up ejaculatory control and to learn the correct techniques.

      I understand that this may be incompatible with your religious views, and I respect your right to adhere to them.

      I have given you a full refund on your purchase, though feel free to keep the program, and work through the other non-ejaculatory training modules. While you may not see the results other guys have been getting, they will still help you somewhat. Best of luck – Dan

  • Hello Dan. I tried your instant cool down methods and they worked really well. Thanks for all the info.

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      2 years ago

      That’s great Zack. Happy to help you out. – Dan

  • Hi Dan and thanks for showing so many of your Techniques. I read a lot of stuff about PE but this is the only one that looks like it can help me. I plan to buy your program but would like to know how long it will take to work. I will see my GF in 2 weeks and want to be able to last before then. Last time we had sex was just 1 or 2 minutes.

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      2 years ago

      Hi Raph. If you start the program today, you will definitely see improvement when you meet your girlfriend in 2 weeks time. However, to get the full benefits of the program it generally takes about a month. Good luck, and enjoy your time with your girl. – Dan

  • Hi Dan, I’m 21 years old. I know I’m young but, I want to start learning early. My girlfriend have been dating for 3 years now and every time we have sex it feels like the first time. I last about 1 minute and I’m not satisfied with it. She doesn’t orgasm and makes me feel bad. Can you give me some advice please?

    • Dan Becket
      Dan Becket
      2 years ago

      Hi Ben. First up. Do not worry. What you are experiencing is not unusual. Most guys are too embarrassed to discuss their premature ejaculation but there are many other guys experiencing this. That said, It’s a tough situation to be in, especially when you realize that you are not satisfying your girlfriend.

      The good news is that there is no reason why you can’t improve your performance. I’ve seen guys who started off much worse than you achieve total ejaculatory control and you will be able to as well.

      There’s some quick things you can start with right now, such as the breathing techniques, the instant cool-down methods and position selection but in your case you are going to have to complete some training exercises which will take a few weeks to get right.

      The training is important because it will reprogram your ejaculatory response to cool it’s self down automatically (I call this a turn back). Once you have learned the correct technique in training you can start putting into action during sex. It may take a couple of tries to get it right, but once you do you will realize that you are able to cool your system down on call and continue saving sex.

      You can then move onto the more advanced stuff which will push you towards having total control. It will take some work and commitment on your behalf but it will be well and truly worth it.

      I have emailed you the first 2 chapters of the Ejaculation Freedom course to get you started. Good Luck.

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